Kissing is not merely a playful obligation on the way to sex. To kiss—really kiss—is to abandon one’s literal self in an effort to become a work of art, to insatiably devour the boundary between you and your lover.
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Good kissing is violent because its goal is not romantic. We desire to eat and be eaten, to lose ourselves and to forget the false distinction between us, to linger awhile in the perpetually paused silence of grace.
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